Sunday, November 6, 2011

R.I.P. Patty Cook

I've made good progress on the cammie purses but they still aren't done. I *will* finish them this week, or bust!

Life threw a curve ball today and it will be a little more topsy-turvy than usual around here as we found out this morning that my sister-in-law died suddenly in her sleep last night. She was 54 — maybe 55? —  and COD is still unknown right now. We weren't close at all, but since this is my STBex's brother's wife, STBex will be flying up to Virginia soon for an extended stay to support his brother, and I'll be on my own here. It will be good practice, right? (Was that too unsensitive?) Her daughter (my niece and her only child) is flying home from Germany, where she and her Army husband are stationed. My heart goes out to my niece because the last words she had with her mom were a big argument, which in hindsight was probably really about nothing. Take this as a cue to tell your loved ones they are special and don't let bad feelings ferment.

19 comments:

  1. So sorry to hear this. And I feel for her daughter. I hope she'll realize sooner rather than later that last words and the quality of a relationship are not the same thing...

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  2. So sorry, Debbie...so young.

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  3. Divorced and on my own with 2 boys for 9 years myself. Let me know if you need any tips about anything but dating. That whole process has escaped me...navigating the ex family can be challenging too.

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  4. My condolences to you and to her family. It's true that you really do never know.

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  5. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  6. Oh! 54! I am so sorry for your family. I totally agree with K.Line. And your thoughts about your STBex? yep, good practice for you. Hang in and sew something fun.

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  7. My sympathies for you and the family. That is too young. This will be tough to navigate but you will as there will be no choice. So sorry.

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  8. Wow. My condolences go out to the family; this sort of thing is such a shock. To be quite blunt, I think we all need to take care of ourselves better.

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  9. Yes Debbie as I attended the funeral today of my eldest sister this was very topical. Remember everyone to tell the people you love...You love them. Condolences to you and your in laws as well.
    Alison - Perth Western Australia

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  10. Yes Debbie as I attended the funeral today of my eldest sister this was very topical. Remember everyone to tell the people you love...You love them. Condolences to you and your in laws as well.
    Alison - Perth Western Australia

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  11. I'm so sorry for you and the rest of the family. Don't worry about your comment. I know I'd want people to make the best they can out of my untimely death (Now that sounded weird! But you know what I mean right?).

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  12. This was sad news. Devastating for her daughter, well stated; K.Line.

    chloeE

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  13. Very scary. That's the second story in two weeks I've heard of someone passing unexpectedly in their sleep. Cherish and love every moment. It's easier to say than do (trust me, I know). I think stories like this only help to encourage us to pursue happiness and love those around you genuinely and unconditionally. My condolences. Be well and with peace.
    Lynnelle

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  14. Oh my goodness. My prayers are with you and your family.

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  15. In this day and age it's always a shock to lose someone so young. I feel so badly for her whole family and for her daughter who will probably never forget their last conversation. I only hope she can realize that her mother loved her no matter what.
    And no, you weren't insensitive and as a matter of fact I think you'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel once you are truly on your own! Been there done that.

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  16. So sorry to hear the sad news. It's a difficult time for all notwithstanding the STB ex status. I know you will navigate it with sensitivity and compassion. {{{hugs}}}

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  17. So sad to hear about Patty. My father died suddenly as well, and it added to the trauma that nobody had had the chance to say goodbye.

    Hope your family is ok. I will keep all of you in my thoughts this week.

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  18. So sorry for the loss of your sister in law. I hope you will be welcomed to pay your condolences in person during your Thanksgiving trip to Virginia. And I am sorry for your niece especially, because she must feel simply horrible about arguing with her mother. (But at least arguing means they cared about each other; I never argue with my own mother, merely tolerate her as rarely as possible.)

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  19. Sorry to hear.
    True, may last words to someone be joyous.

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